Aunt Iva – Dead at 95

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Iva at Bob EvansI got the call at 11:06 this morning that Aunt Iva had passed away about ten minutes earlier.

Earlier in the morning I called and talked with her nurse.   She told me that she was given 2 units of blood overnight and that she seemed “anxious”, but seemed to have settled down a bit, and was “doing OK”.

The doctor that called with the news said she had a lot of things going against her when she got there last night.  He said he thought it was just her time.  I thanked him for the “sometimes thankless” job they do and he really appreciated that.  I thanked the nurses that worked with her also.

I’ve been making all the necessary calls to relatives and friends, her residence manager and the funeral home.  She is to be cremated and didn’t want any kind of service.  I plan to take my family out to Bob Evans, her favorite restaurant sometime in the near future in remembrance of her.

I’m, going to need to go down there in the next week or so.  Her rent is paid up until March 1st.  I’ll need to clean out her apartment and collect her personal belongings.  I’ll probably be driving down this time.  Perhaps next weekend.  So there will be a few light days here on B&P.

Note:  I know there are many people who will just pass by this post, and ones like it, and I understand that, but I also know that some of you genuinely care.  I’ll try not to overload this space with details, but there seems to be an interest about her, so I wanted to share this news.

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213 thoughts on “Aunt Iva – Dead at 95”

  2. My deepest condolences to you and your family. From your posts it seemed she lived a good life, and she knew how much you cared for her all the way to the end.

  4. Hey kid, do whatever you need to do. We will wait patiently for your return. I am sorry she had to pass; I am glad she had so many people who loved her and supported her during her last days. My husband and I will continue to pray for all of those who miss and loved her.

  5. I am very sorry to here about your loss. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I wish there was more that I could do for you. I too have lost several family members recently. If they have had a good long life it’s not quite as painful. I hope that you have many beautiful memories.
    God Bless You,
    Faye

  8. My prayers with you and your family, enjoyed your stories and adventures with Aunt Iva now she can give the angels a run for thier money have a safe trip and we’ll all be here waiting for your return

  10. Death IS a sad occurrence but she is resting now, no more pain. I am a B&P addict, never commented before but this moves me, sure she new how much you cared for her in the end. My thoughts go to you my friend we share the fun and we are here for your grieving to.
    I don’t know if you believe in the Bible but Job 14:14, 15 Let us know that God Will Yearn to bring back Our loved ones from death.

    Here is some info that will be consoling for you and your Family, I know if has helped my family I respectfully pass it on.

    http://www.watchtower.org/e/we/index.htm?article=article_00.htm
    Best wishes.

  11. I am so sorry for your loss. I care for my elderly great aunt and uncle. And although I am mentally prepared for the day they pass…I think you never really feel the loss until it happens. Life is so precious. And I am happy you were able to visit with her and talk to her recently.

    Rest in Peace Aunt Iva.

  13. Wow! What an outpouring of kindness from all of you across the world. I am truly touched by your words and feelings. Thank you so very much. You don’t know how much that means to me.

  14. sorry to hear about this and do what you gotta do. Don’t worry about us, we will wait right here for you. Think about the good times, those can help you through the bad.

  20. I am sorry to hear of her loss. She will be missed by her family and friends. Thank you for letting us know of her passing-she obviously meant a lot to you.

  21. My condolences, Jonco. Please consider that a part of her will live on as long as you remember her. She sounds like a wonderful person.

  22. Jonco, I understand missing a person who has passed on, but really, it seems it was her time. I don’t believe that death is a permanent separation. I often say it’s like being in a shopping mall, and somebody has finished their shopping on this floor and has taken the elevator to do a little more shopping elsewhere (hopefully they took the elevator UP!) I’m not done with my shopping here, but when I am, I’ll take the elevator too – when it’s my turn. I’m just thankful that she seemed ready to go and didn’t suffer much when her time came. Sometimes it’s hard to say goodbye to the body, but … it seems she was ready. I hope you and your family, and your aunt can find peace in this.

  23. It seems that between your niece, Mel and your Aunt, it has been a rough few months. I hope that the worst is over and you can remain a positive person.
    In the spirit of Irish wakes, a toast for you and yours.

  24. Hey everybody…. Jonco’s daughter here– I really appreciate all of your messages of support (and I know dad does too).. having you all be so kind to our family is like a great big hug. 🙂
    And although losing someone is sad– i just had to chuckle– because the ad at the top
    of the page had a pic of a coffin and was an ad for cremation…”Think outside the box”…
    A little bit of humor in the coincidence made me smile.
    Thanks again everyone for all your kind words.

  25. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Your posts bring a smile to many as I am sure Aunt Iva did the same.
    Peace.

  29. I’m so sorry. I’m sitting here crying right now and I’ve never met her but you made her such a part of things here that I feel a real loss. Take care of yourself during this time because it will hit you at odd times. The business part of death is sometimes a blessing as it numbs the pain until you are stronger. Please know that we are all thinking of you and remembering “our” Aunt Iva. Bless you.

  31. I just want to add my condolences. Your Aunt was very lucky to have someone like you. Being an old person myself, I know how much that must have meant to her. Thank you for your wonderful site.

  34. Condolences, on your loss. We both know you did your very best for her, all the way.
    My Mom is 90, in a nursing home, and my Aunt 90, living alone. I get chills every damn time the phone rings.

  35. Jonco, long time lurker and first time poster. My condolences to you and your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Don’t mourn her passing, but celebrate her life.

  36. So sorry for your loss. You are to be commended for your caring and sacrifice. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

  37. My thoughts and heart are with you and your family. Please know that many of us find support in your site – through distraction or humor – and I hope we can support you in this difficult time.

  38. my deepest condolences to you and your family. I’ve been a fan of your site for years, and it was obvious how much you cared for your aunt.

  40. Jonco–My condolences on your and your family’s lost. I am sorry that your aunt passed away.

    Take the time you need; we will wait for you.

  42. I hope that you and your family stay strong in this time of sadness. Some of us, no matter how numerous the years we spend on this earth, it just never seems to be enough. It seems that your aunt was one of those people.

  43. I’m so sorry for you and your family’s loss. She seemed like a great lady and obviously cared for you very much. You are in our thoughts and prayers!

  44. Thank you for letting us know. I am glad you spent time with her recently. So sorry for you loss. It’s hard to let go of our family.

    Take great care,
    Mary Ann

  45. Ah, crap. I didn’t want to visit your site this afternoon coz I just could feel it. Hugs to all of you, the Mrs., Krisgo, Family and Jonco. Jonco, she’s where she wants to be, she told you. Aunt Iva is at peace. God Bless Her. She’s touched so many hearts thru you. I’m just a crying canucklehead right now and I’d like to give you all a big old Hug.

  47. So sorry to hear about this Jonco. When my grandmother passed away, she had said for weeks before that she was ready to go even though she wasn’t ill, but she wanted to see her daughter (who she hadn’t seen for many years). My aunt came to visit, and a week after she left, my grandmother passed away. It was nothing in particular, it just seemed like it was her time to go. Reading your story reminded me of that, maybe Aunt Iva waited to see you one more time too before being able to let go.

    My thoughts will be with you and your family.

  49. Jonco – So sorry to hear the news. May the many rich and delightful memories bring you some comfort.
    Thank you for introducing Aunt Iva to us. We are richer for having known her.

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