Aunt Iva – Dead at 95

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Iva at Bob EvansI got the call at 11:06 this morning that Aunt Iva had passed away about ten minutes earlier.

Earlier in the morning I called and talked with her nurse.   She told me that she was given 2 units of blood overnight and that she seemed “anxious”, but seemed to have settled down a bit, and was “doing OK”.

The doctor that called with the news said she had a lot of things going against her when she got there last night.  He said he thought it was just her time.  I thanked him for the “sometimes thankless” job they do and he really appreciated that.  I thanked the nurses that worked with her also.

I’ve been making all the necessary calls to relatives and friends, her residence manager and the funeral home.  She is to be cremated and didn’t want any kind of service.  I plan to take my family out to Bob Evans, her favorite restaurant sometime in the near future in remembrance of her.

I’m, going to need to go down there in the next week or so.  Her rent is paid up until March 1st.  I’ll need to clean out her apartment and collect her personal belongings.  I’ll probably be driving down this time.  Perhaps next weekend.  So there will be a few light days here on B&P.

Note:  I know there are many people who will just pass by this post, and ones like it, and I understand that, but I also know that some of you genuinely care.  I’ll try not to overload this space with details, but there seems to be an interest about her, so I wanted to share this news.

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213 thoughts on “Aunt Iva – Dead at 95”

  2. Do not even THINK about worrying about B&P, you have more than enough to take care of on your end. We’re big boys here, I’m sure we can handle ourselves.

    I’m incredibly sorry to hear about your loss, but both you and her knew it was coming, which made it a bit easier I’m sure. I lost my great Aunt two weeks ago, so I can easily relate to what you’re going through now. In times like these, you just need to rely on your faith.

  5. I’m so sorry to hear that news Jonco. I remember the times in the past you had mentioned Aunt Iva and her sayings, she sounded a great lady.

  6. Jonco — its times like this when even after 95 years, life still seems too short. Know that she wouldn’t want you to feel badly; keep her alive in your thoughts (and her stories). My heart goes out to you and your family.

  8. Jonco, my condolences to you and your family. I was always impressed that you spent so much time with your aunt and traveled to see her so often. I’m glad that you took the time last week to go and see her. That will be comforting in the future as you think back and know that you didn’t miss the chance to see her one last time. From your stories about her, she sounded as if she was full of spunk and lived life to the fullest. I would have liked to know her. My prayers are with you and her.

  9. Jonco – I hope you and your family will take the appropriate time to grieve. You obviously had a great affection and love for your Aunt and were always there for her. I’m sure that in her final moments she knew she was in good hands. If need be, post Gus to us in Scotland and we’ll return him when appropriate. Best wishes.

  10. Your aunt was very fortunate to have you caring about and for her. People with compassion are such a gift to those around them. I lost my parents many years ago and, as an only child, had no one to help me. I can relate to every step you shared … Safe trip, take good care of yourself. My thoughts are prayers are with you and your family.

  12. Jonco, I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for the updates about her. Through you we’ve been able to know her in a small way, I would love to have met her. You have my respect and admiration for your love for, and devotion to her.
    Thoughts and prayers from my home to yours. Take care.

  14. My thoughts any prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. May God Bless you all and keep the memories of all the good times with you always.

  15. Take your time and do what you need to do. And know that there are those who enjoy your efforts and are saddened by your loss. Keep that chin up!

  16. Sorry to hear Jonco. Dont normally comment but have been a fan for a very long time. My thoughts and prayers are with ya. Take care

  17. So sorry to hear about Aunt Ida. With your regular updates she became part of this worldwide family. Heartfelt condolences to you and your family

  21. Take Care, Jon, and let me know if there is anything I can do to help, ever it may be. You’ve lost Aunt Iva, but we’ve all lost a person who was a part of most of the history we remember. It’s staggering how much knowledge and experience she must have had, and the things she has seen.

  22. I am so sorry to hear of your loss, you were a wonderful nephew to her, I’m sure you brought alot of happiness into her life. B$P will be fine while you handle whatever you need to. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

  24. So sorry to hear about your Aunt Iva. Often people are not willing to share the anguish of a loved one’s failing health. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care of yourself.

  25. Those who visit here each day feel we know you. We care about your family and enjoy your heartfelt stories of Aunt Iva. All the best to you for being such a good person. Know that you were in her thoughts until the end.

  26. Sorry for your loss Jonco. Somehow she just knew it was her time and she let you know, not all of us get an opportunity like that. Thank you for sharing your visits and stories about her with us.

  29. I do believe I was in her thoughts until the end. She was telling everyone who’d come into the room that I was her nephew and her best friend. Thank you all for all the comments, thoughts and prayers.

  30. I am so sorry, I think you would be surprised at how much people really care, even if they don’t comment, does not mean their thoughts are not with you.
    My grandma was like your Aunt, every time I saw her in the last weeks she said she had, had enough and had spent her time here. I would always tell her not to talk like that. But I think when someone has had enough in their head their body follows.
    In the end, while I miss my grandma tremendously, I was happy for her that she was no longer burdened with a body that had, had enough.
    You know, we all know we will see them again, I think we just have to make their passing easier on them by being happy for them.
    warm thoughts to you and your family :))

  32. Sorry to hear that, Jon…but I’m glad she’s got the peace she was looking for. I know it’ll be a rough couple of weeks (or how ever long), but good memories and knowing you did right by her sure will make it easier. Hang in there. You’re in my prayers.

  36. Jonco, I’m so very sorry for your loss. Know you were very devoted to her. Think of all the good memories you have of her. And may the Lord heal you in the days ahead for your loss. Deepest Sympathy to you and your family.

  37. sorry for you’re loss. I think I understand what you are feeling. With elderly parents myself (I understand Iva was your Aunt) I look at my parents and think they feel the same way Ms. Iva did near the end. I don’t understand how or why they should feel like they do. Maybe it is not meant for us to understand.

  38. Sorry to hear of Iva’s passing. You and your family will be in my thoughts. Thank you so much for sharing her with us. She seemed to be one heck of a lady. Please continue to include her on the blog. I would love to hear more about her.

  39. So very sorry to hear of the loss of your wonderful Aunt.
    Remember though she’s gone, she’s only really in the next room, watching over you and hearing your words…
    You & your family will be in my thoughts…

  40. The Bible teaches us that the day of one’s death should be more glorious than the day of one’s birth but it is hard to let loved ones go. Deepest sympathy

  41. Jonco, sorry for your loss, but glad to know that you were with your Aunt in the last few days. I’m sure you were in her thoughts. That will probably mean more than you imagine. Try not to be saddened by her passing – instead, be happy that you were a part of each others’ lives. Your aunt seemed to be a wonderful lady, and a joy to know. You’ll always have that, and her love.

  42. Jonco, my sympathies to you and your family on your loss. I can’t speak for everyone else, but I am honored to have been able to read your posts about your aunt, and my hat is off to you for being a wonderful nephew. May your aunt rest in the peace she truly deserves. I’m sure she will be watching over you.

  44. My very deepest condolences for your loss; my thoughts are with you and your family. I’ve ready every post about your aunt and she sounds like a dear and funny woman…thank you for sharing her with us. Take heart in knowing that you made her last days as comfortable and happy as you possibly could, and keep her memory close. RIP Aunt Iva.

  47. I fairly new to this site, so I had to back track to see how much love and energy you have put into your relationship with your aunt. I echo these others – you did wonderfully for Aunt Iva and were a rock for her in her last days. God bless you and Iva.

  49. I’m so sorry to hear this, it must hurt so bad. Just remember that you’ll have the whole B&P readership behind you, supporting you. Nobody expects you to throw yourself into B&P at the moment, just deal with what you have to deal with.

    You’re in my thoughts and prayers!

    xx

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